- UWC psychologist Rone Gerber provides practical tips for parents to help children relax and reconnect during the holidays.
- Emphasising the importance of play, routines, and quality time, Gerber highlights ways to balance fun with structure.
- She also advises fostering empathy through acts of kindness and adapting approaches for adolescents to maintain strong family bonds.
As that song “We’re all going on a summer holiday…” seeps into our heads, children and parents alike look forward to a well-deserved break. But navigating this time of year can present unique challenges for families.
UWC psychologist and head of therapeutic services, Rone Gerber, shares expert insights into how parents can help children relax, recharge and reconnect meaningfully during the holidays.
“Routines are vital for children,” says Gerber. “When holidays arrive, it’s tempting to let all the rules fly out the window, but that can disrupt their sense of security. You can relax the schedule a bit – bedtime an hour later or skipping the occasional bath – but try to maintain a rhythm.”
Gerber says consistency in routines helps children feel grounded. “Let them know it’s a holiday by slightly bending the rules, but don’t throw everything overboard. This helps them enjoy the break without feeling disoriented.”
Importance of play
Children thrive on play, and Gerber highlights its therapeutic power.
“Play is essential – swimming, running or building sandcastles at the beach. Most children love outdoor activities and it’s important to give them the freedom to play in a way that energises them.”
She stresses the importance of spending quality time together: “Most children don’t mind what you’re doing, as long as you do it with them. Whether it’s baking cookies or wrestling on the carpet, your attention is priceless. In these moments, they recover from the pressures of the school year.”
Inspire involvement
The holidays offer a unique opportunity to instil values of empathy and generosity. Gerber suggests involving children in giving back.
“Ask them, ‘Which of your toys can we donate?’ or let them help an elderly neighbour clean their garden. These acts of kindness build self-esteem and a sense of worth.”
She advises parents to lead by example. “Bake something with your child and take it to someone in need. These small actions open the door to meaningful conversations and expand their understanding of the world.”
Gerber says this advice is appropriate for children ages seven to 12. However, she adds that a different approach should be applied to children 12 and older.
’Pick your moments’
Navigating adolescence can feel like walking a tightrope, but Gerber offers a balanced approach. “Adolescents are forming their identities and crave independence, but they still need their parents’ attention – even if they won’t admit it.”
Her advice? “Pick your moments and stay engaged. Share a funny story, discuss current events, or sit and listen. They might push you away, but deep down they value the connection.”
Versatile boundaries are essential during this stage.
“Set clear rules, but allow room for negotiation. Reward trustworthiness with greater freedom and tighten boundaries when necessary. It’s a constant balance, but it helps them develop responsibility and critical thinking.”
By balancing fun with structure, encouraging creative play and making space for genuine connection, families can end the year on a high note and lay the foundation for an even stronger relationship in the year ahead.
As Gerber so eloquently says: “Most children don’t even mind what you’re doing as long as you’re doing it with them.
